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10 Tips To Keep You In A Positive State of Mind - Pt. 2

Updated: Oct 18, 2021

Happy #FRIYAY, y'all! Wishing you an amazing day ahead. And to help keep you on the right track...let's continue from where we left off yesterday on the previous post to keep you in that positive state of mind!

6. 🕺 Get Your Fitness On - CARDIO Is Everything

Fitness literally is the magical fix to a not so great state of mind. If you want to rock yourself back in the game -- GO TO THE GYM or simply DO CARDIO.

Obviously, the long term health benefits are enormous, but if you are having a bad day, the cure truly is cardio. Any kind of cardio. I regularly do all of the following:

Solo Spin - Don't have to force a class, get on a bike by yourself and kill it.

Run outside - Fresh air and sunshine are secondary benefits.

Dance - Maybe do a TikTok at home to "Worked UP"?? (Just a suggestion...)

Take A Walk - At the very least, you can always go for a nice long stroll.

"Studies on mice and humans indicate that cardiovascular exercise creates new brain cells—a process called neurogenesis—and improve overall brain performance. It also prevents cognitive decline and memory loss by strengthening the hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for memory and learning."

If you do not feel like getting up and walking to the gym or getting into traffic and driving to the gym -- too bad. You have to FIGHT to get there. Some days I have to FIGHT to get there. The act of getting your gym outfit on, having a goal to accomplish, getting there, and "doing the thing" all are huge benefits psychologically -- even if your body is telling you, "Bxtch, we're here but we ain't doing this for long."

It doesn't matter if you can't do a full hour of cardio. At least get something done.

Afterwards your brain and body will be so set off by endorphins that you might just trick yourself into staying longer than you thought you actually would! Happens to me all the time. And the mere fact that you GOT THERE sets you up for success for the following day...knowing that even when you felt like you COULDN'T get there -- you did previously, and you COULD do that all over again.

7. Dress the Part 👕

Everyone has days when they are just plain feeling fugz. For no rhyme or reason it just happens and I will be the first one to admit it happens to me more than I would like to admit. (Some days I think I might actually even be the poster child for body dysmorphia.)

On those "not so cute" days I always do something that really helps me FEEL better which is simply dressing up. I dress up, dress well, and dress as if I'm going to a nice dinner or a casual "event" -- even if I am not going anywhere. lolz.

Since the pandemic struck, I think everyone has been trying to feel as comforted as possible in quarantine and working from home and I totally get that. But after awhile, sweat shorts, sweat pants, and not showering just gets old (and gross). And that doesn't actually lift spirits after awhile -- it makes a person sink further into the abyss of not taking care of their physical well-being. Comfort turns into laziness, and laziness turns into apathy, and that just conditions a person to not give A F about anything (not just their appearance).

The quick fix for the days when you are not feeling so "fresh" is to actually dress in the clothes and the shoes that make you feel powerful and strong. It's not like I'm saying dress for the Met Gala -- what I'm saying is take a shower, primp, spramp, make yourself pretty, do your hair, put on makeup, and put on clothes that are not "comfortable", but clothes that make you feel good when you are being "seen".

Dress good. Feel good. Ez-Pz.

8. Take A Time Out ⏲️

Sometimes you can wake up in the morning and just not feel great, despite what you felt like the day prior with all the plans and responsibilities you had for the current day.

There are a multitude of reasons why you should give yourself a BREAK and just let your body, mind, and soul evolve in the present day as they are ready to.

DON'T FORCE IT (the schedule) if you are not feeling it.

Most days, especially in the past, I would get frustrated and upset about not feeling great and PUSH myself way to hard to keep on schedule to get everything I needed done not really for myself, but for all the other people that were depending on me.

Not anymore. $hit can wait.

Your responsibilities and tasks are not going anywhere. They are merely being put on pause until you are ready and able to get to them. Your first priority is to your mental and physical wellness.

Running yourself into the ground doesn't help just makes things worse. It will also catch up with you later on at some point and you might get much more sick than you actually found yourself to be in the first place.

If it takes a morning, an afternoon, or an entire day -- give yourself the space and time to recover. You will be so much more productive when you are ready on your own terms, and your mind, body, and soul will thank you for it.

9. SEE Your Future - VISUALIZE 🔮

Ever since I was a little boy, I always saw my future in my mind. It's almost like I was being fed visual information to my brain and I was being guided to make those visualizations actual reality. The more I thought about what I wanted, the more attainable they became to me. I internalized those visions, they became normalized as truth, I had no fear about what COULD happen if I followed those visions and turned them into reality because they were as close and as comfortable to me as a best friend.

I would dream up music videos and draw out their story boards, I would hear music in my head and duplicate it on the piano that I could see and touch and feel, I would see bigger picture roadmaps of what I should be doing to achieve my goals -- and I wouldn't ever know why -- I would know to just follow the information I had been given. It's just something that always was for's what I was given...and I think that helped me get through a very troubled and turbulent childhood within my core family existence.

  • Literally, everything that I saw in my head came to fruition.

  • My music videos all came true.

  • The music that I saw and heard in my mind was produced and realized.

  • And my career in music was able to be used to help charity and help others just as I wished it could be since I was 8 years old.

So - put yourself where you want to be in your mind -- and let it happen.

The fastest way to make your vision come to fruition is to consistently think about it, dream about, speak about it, and moreover -- DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. What you want will come...and it will surprise you in the various ways your dream(s) shows up in your waking life.

10. ☀️REAL DEAL SUNSHINE Works Wonders

Get outside and get in the sunshine. Sounds simple right? Some days...not so.

Stress and anxiety play a major part in keeping someone IN DOORS in a place where they might "feel safe and unaffected" by the rest of the world. While a common and logical response to anxiety and depression (however situational it may be) that does nothing good for mental health - and actually makes issues worse.

There are days when I literally need to force myself to get off the computer, get out of meetings, and get OUTSIDE so I can breathe some fresh air and get those important RAYS OF VITAMIN D. When I DO...I feel completely renewed, lighter and my mood is improved almost 100%.

Getting some sun increases your serotonin and helps you stave off Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and sun exposure can also help people with anxiety and depression, especially in combination with other treatments.

You should absorb light for about 30 minutes a day. You don't have to do it all a t once, either.

The thing NOT to do, that I have just found in my research, is go to the tanning salon to get artificial light to change your mood. Here's why...

Tanning beds are often misconceived as a legitimate cure for low serotonin levels. In reality, most doctors recommend a form of visible light, as previously stated because the risk of UV ray exposure is just too dangerous. Light therapy, as described by Andrew Weil M.D., works in 80% of patients. The light enters through the eyes, which UV rays cannot do, unless you are willing to put your eyesight at GREAT risk.
The CDC offers alternative and easy habit changes to deal with Seasonal Affective Disorder. Getting up earlier in the morning and taking a simple stroll outside will allow your body to be exposed to natural light. Relaxation and enough sleep are also key factors.

I realize that all of these things may not work for everyone. But I figure, they work for me so it might be worth mentioning so you might try at least one or two of them, You never know what might happen...and it surely can't hurt. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

xoxo - B

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